Companion. Solitude. The Home as a Studio. Collaborative. Communal spirit.

The key is to understand that seeking solitude in a positive way is good for the soul. The path to this joy of solitude is loving your own company.

 

There is no companion so companionable as Solitude,” Thoreau reminds me as I carry a hot cup of tea back to bed. The house is hushed now after the hustle and bustle of a weekday morning.
— Breathnach, Sarah Ban. Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort of Joy (Kindle Locations 574-575). Grand Central Publishing. Kindle Edition. 

I'm enjoying rereading her book, I wait on my cup of coffee to brew this morning. The office is empty and I enjoy the silence, the soft morning light and peopling watch through the glass pane of the office door basking in my solitude before the weekday morning rush. 

On afternoons I come to a studio full of stillness. I meet the windows closed, hear only silence and wonder what magic will I fill my evening with. The silence can be deafening even melancholy and it can be silence you can dance in. Dance in your afternoon silence. 

Make rituals of your afternoon silence

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Perhaps it's all you can do, live in the moment and the silence.

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Just as with an aging rose I am drawn into my darkness. I wanted to feel it all. I knew it would last longer that I could bear and I wanted to experience it's deepest depths. I believed one day I would be, too, overwhelmed by joy. I believe I'd have had so much darkness that all I'd crave for, plan for and welcome would be light. I was felling all of my grief and that was okay. I wanted to. I learned that feeling it was the key to freedom from it. 

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One of my favourite Poems

Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.

Some of you say, “Joy is greater thar sorrow,” and others say, “Nay, sorrow is the greater.”
But I say unto you, they are inseparable.
Together they come, and when one sits, alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.

Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy.
Only when you are empty are you at standstill and balanced.
When the treasure-keeper lifts you to weigh his gold and his silver, needs must your joy or your sorrow rise or fall.
— On Joy and Sorrow Kahlil Gibran

Here feels so much less than a home and more like a creative space. You'd not find sugar or milk in the pantry or fridge. It's a place where I play and mess up, clean up and try new things. The green wall, move around the plants and furniture, observe where the light falls and fills. Experiment. 

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 In simple terms, the language you use to describe your circumstances determines how you see, experience, and participate in them and dramatically affects how you deal with your life and confront problems both big and small.

The connection between what we say and how we feel has been known for hundreds if not thousands of years. Philosophers like Wittgenstein, Heidegger, and Gadamer all knew of the importance and significance of language in our lives. Wittgenstein said, “The harmony between thought and reality can be found in the grammar of the language.”
— Bishop, Gary John. Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life (pp. 7-8). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition. 
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“If human emotions largely result from thinking, then one may appreciably control one’s feelings by controlling one’s thoughts—or by changing the internalized sentences, or self-talk, with which one largely created the feeling in the first place.”
— Albert Ellis, Bishop, Gary John. Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life (p. 10). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.
“Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears.” - Marcus Aurelius
— Bishop, Gary John. Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life (p. 14). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.
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I invite you to collaborate here.

With love from Freeport

Chan.